Question your explanations of others behavior when we make a mistake, we tend to find causes outside
of ourselves to account for them when others make mistakes.
We blame them on the person.
For example, I used to get annoyed with drivers who had their lights off at night and didn't turn them
on when I tickled my high beams.
Then one night I did it myself, getting all the way to my destination without realizing I'd forgotten
to turn on my lights.
I realized we can all make this mistake and I stopped getting annoyed with these drivers.
When you notice that you're attributing others faults to their character, ask yourself if there's kinder
and more accurate explanation.
Maybe the driver who cut you off is on the phone with the doctor about his sick child.
The attributions we make for others behavior have a big impact on our anger.